Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,
You know when you feel so angry you could bust? And you just don't know what to do? Or even you really want to do something that maybe you shouldnt do? These feelings of frustration can all be traced to Shaytan. When we have an urge to do something we subconsciously are aware that it's perhaps not the best idea, and are somewhat hesitant you know that Shaytan is whispering in your ear.
Urging you to. Yet you need time to think, the best way to avoid bad impulsive decisions is to sit and think. Yes just think when I do this action will it please Allah? Am I doing it for Allah? Is it necessary? After calculating your answers if they are no then you need to refrain and do dhikr InshaAllah. If you don't like thinking then atleast go somewhere where you are alone so you can calm down.
I know when I have felt impulsive and I really wanted to say or do something I just sat and thought is it for Allah? And I realised it wasn't so I stayed strong and remembered Allah. Sisters we should remember that we will be rewarded for our courage and endurance, Allah loves those who control their anger and refrains from sins for his sake.
I know its hard and other ways to help cool down which you may have heard are these:
Say Aoothoo billahi minash shaytaneerajim
Meaning I seek refuge in Allah from the acursed Shaytan
This will InshaAllah remove Shaytans whispering and make him hide in a corner. Remember your faith in Allah wll always beat Shaytan.
"But as for My servants, you will not have any authority over them." Your Lord suffices as a guardian. (Surat al-Isra´, 65)
SubhanAllah Shaytan may be able to tempt others but not those who remain steadfast InshaAllah! Have you ever heard of the story of the man who went to pray at the mosque and the first time he went he forgot something at home, so he went back then he was walking and he broke his wudhu,so he had to go back home ,all the while Shaytan was trying his best to make the man stay at home whispering evilly.
The man did not, every time he came back towards the mosque despite being delayed and I think on the 6th or 7th time a man came outside the mosque, greeted him and took him to the mosque. I have heard that the man was Shaytan obviously taking the form of a man because he was so agitated that this man would not give up, so he ended up helping him! I do not know where I heard this story but I would not take it to be a true story, only because I dont have evidence from hadiths therefore see it as an illustrative example of the endurance we should have for good deeds and know Shaytan will always lose if we persevere.
This means in our anger if we continue to remember Allah and stay patient Shaytan will lose. Or even refraining from sinning and doing dhikr and saying Astaghfirullah will make Shaytan weak.
I know this topic is always discussed and I will give you the common solutions. Sitting down if you standing, laying down if you are sitting. If these do not cool you down then do wudhu InshaAllah that will make you literally feel cool and remember Allah. I know in the heat of anger you don't remember these things but InshaAllah if you cant do these remain silent as to not hurt people in haste. Also these solutions can be applied to refraining from sinning. It might seem silly but it helps :)
These solutions are all from hadiths I have not posted the hadiths but here is the link I took it from:
Under "What to do when angry"
This website is also very useful and in much more detail so please look at it:
“And what is with Allah is better and more enduring for those who believe and who rely upon their Lord. And those who avoid the major sins and indecencies, and when they become angry, they forgive.” [ Sûrah al-Shûrâ : 36-37]